Updated: Sep 17, 2021
Well, today, I celebrate 51 years of life. Sadly, nowadays, that seems like a great accomplishment. I am thankful for the person I have become and the person I will be.
The past two years have been challenging. I personally can reflect on the number of health challenges, passing of loved ones, and stumbling blocks many people I know have faced. I am impressed by their resilience, faith, and strength. It just reminds us of how fortunate most of us are if we can still read this post.
Life has not turned out the way I may have planned or taken me on my “preferred path.” But there is purpose in being…kind, good, thoughtful, humble, selfless, loving, caring, and just being a good person. It’s pretty effortless, and every day I work to be a better person than I was yesterday. I owe myself that much.
We all have choices and one shot at this life. Don’t spend it bitter, unhappy, or worried about the ‘what ifs.’ I know for certain that only I have control over myself and my life choices and decisions. Spend less time focused on drawbacks and more time on what’s right and good.
I have spent many years broken and looking for ways to ‘fix’ myself when all along, it wasn’t about ‘fixing’ me but ‘fixing’ my outlook. I’ve come to terms that people have a right to decline my love, no matter how pure my intentions are. It is perfectly okay – I’m not what they want yet, it does not define me. I will not change who I am to fit into someone else’s puzzle, and neither should you.
"The two most important days of your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why." -- Mark Twain
The pieces of my puzzle continue to connect – piece by piece. I am watching with excitement as it all comes together. I know every now and then there will be a missing piece here or there. There may even be pieces that break, wear out or fall away – after all, our puzzle is never fully complete. But I am grateful for all the pieces that hold me together especially when I need them the most.
My birthday wish for everyone who takes the time to read this is to focus on two things. Take a moment to tell someone that you appreciate them being part of your puzzle. Then, take a moment for self-reflection, sit back, and watch the pieces of your own puzzle come together.